“What about the security guards – do they fall under the middle-income group or the lower-income group?” “Why does the coach not pay as much attention to me as he does to the kids who play well?” “What will happen in a world without a religion?” “Why cannot everyone just be nice to each other?”
These are the kind of questions that my son throws up at me. In a different time period, I would have been a parent who would have rubbished these questions away. I would have severely instructed him to divert his attention towards his academics, and trying to make something out of himself.
But my son is not even remotely interested in the field of academics. His domain of interest lies in understanding how the society functions – the relationship between you and me. And since this is not a subject that is taught in school, my son’s curiosity only gets answered either at home or among relatives. It is no wonder that he announces to every Tom, Dick and Harry that school is “boring.”
Everyone has a unique curiosity
Now, let us move to the other side of the spectrum. My friend’s son has an unquenchable thirst for information accumulation. So, obviously, he “loves” going to school. While my friend’s son wants to figure out how stuff works, my son wants to figure out how people work.
After observing the curiosity factor of these two boys, I wondered what my own curiosity was. At the ripe old age of 37, I understood that trying to discover my curiosity was going to be a challenge.
The difference between children and adults is called responsibility. As we grow older, we begin to make time for various responsibilities, something that childhood is free of. It is this freedom that instills the time and space to nurture curiosity.
So, Curiosity is the Child within us
And in order to discover this child, let us time travel into our childhood.
There I am, as a primary school-girl, getting along with my classmates, scoring decent marks in my subjects, and earning the “good girl” tag. But it is not school that excites me. It is home and what lies in home that fuels my emotions. And what lies at home is a mystery novel waiting to be read.
What is the curiosity here, you ask?
I have always loved a good mystery, and if we get into the mind of anyone who loves a mystery, the curiosity factor that keep them hooked, is the idea of “what happens next.”
But what is so unique about this, you ask?
This is when I step into my teenage years, an age that brings forth the unique individual that I am. I take a peek at what I am doing, and what I am doing is writing poems. There is the poem about “real beauty” that ends with the line “Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder.” I now know that I was discussing individual perspectives. Then there is the long poem about a ghost in the deserted bungalow that turns out to be a cat in the shadows. Through age and experience, I now understand that this poem was about overcoming the fear factor. And then there is this third poem that is my favorite one. It is about Death. And one of the lines goes something like this – Death die not. For, without you, how can I repay my due. And start life anew.
Back to my current position, I try to do the math of my time-travel. I add together my love for mystery, excitement over the “what next”, and exploration of the idea of Death. What I get as my curiosity factor is intrigue over the “unknown world of spirits.” I am secretly (not anymore!) calling myself, “The Death Detective.”
If I had opened up my curiosity factor at that time, nearly 80 percent of the world’s population, including my family, would think I have gone nuts. So, somewhere, around the time of early adulthood, I began to cover myself up in various other work.
Unfortunately, I lost the child within me, in the process.
This is the case with most of us. We either withdraw into our shells because of pre-conceived notions of the right and wrong; or are forced into choosing more “lucrative, real” career paths. And that is how nearly 80 percent of the world’s population loses its connection with itself.
Why should you chase the curiosity factor?
After writing three short novels dwelling into the spirit world, and several articles on how to figure ourselves out, I know how my curiosity is helping me.
My son’s curiosity over inequalities will lead him towards solving emotional challenges present in the society. And my friend’s son’s curiosity will lead him towards figuring out solutions to problems of the physical world.
It is curiosity that builds interest. And it is interest that leads us from where we are to where we want to be. When we chase our interests, we are choosing to live life in the way that it has been designed to be lived – with the end in mind.
So, how do we discover our curiosity?
Time-travel – To discover your curiosity, take a walk through your memories and into your childhood. Open the folders and look into what kept you glued onto life during those moments. What were you wondering about? Where did your interests lie? What were your deepest thoughts that ran around on a loop during those teen years?
Categorize your curiosity – Which space did your curiosity lead you towards – Did it have to do with how the cow produced milk? Or was it doubt over whether the milk produced would be enough for the calf? Your curiosity could be leading you towards discovering anything within the infinite realms of physical, mental, emotional or spiritual worlds.
Were you curious over everything – Some of us are blessed enough to understand our curiosities. For the rest of us, our curiosity itself becomes a challenge. My friend is a case to point. She was curious over everything and just had to meddle with every curiosity. This included experimenting with the idea of what would happen if oil was drunk directly from the can. Although older and (hopefully) wiser now, my friend, still chases her childhood idea of multiple interests. So how does multiple curiosity work?
I have always believed that satisfaction will be complete only when we accomplish our life’s mission. But then, over the years of observing my friend, I have come to understand that life can also be honored by harnessing bits and chunks of satisfaction here and there.
And it is best to leave beauty to each person’s perspective.
Here’s to discovering curiosity, unlocking your potential and caring for the child within! Here’s to finding You!